Dear new husband,
You married me knowing my feet constantly itch to explore. I want to see more than I ever possibly could.
But please know that these adventures I never stop talking about, now I want them all with you.
My love for travel doesn’t mean I don’t want elements of a settled life, but I think settled for me and you is different. I’ve travelled and set up my life in enough foreign countries to know that a home base only makes you appreciate travelling more.
In the past, there have been travels just for the sake of travelling. Of being on the move. There has been money and time spent in places that I never even knew about until I booked the flight. Drawn by the desire to simply to be “elsewhere”. It’s led me to moments of euphoria in travel when I can feel that I’m in exactly the right place and at the right moment. And it’s caused travel burnout when I’ve wondered what it’s all for.
But I don’t worry about that anymore. There’ll always be space in my life for a random adventure, but my future travels will also be full of purpose. We’ll build shared memories and a life to reminisce about when we’re older.
I want new adventures, where we explore places for the first time together, bonding over figuring out a new world. But I want to go back over old adventures too. To take you to places I’ve already seen and that I KNOW you’ll love. I want repeats but with us in the starring roles.
There may be times where I go away on my own. But you know I’ll always be back and I’ll want an abundance of cuddles, to make up for the missed time. I’ll be bursting to tell you my adventures if I haven’t called and told you already, and probably even if I have. I’ll make you look at all the photos of a place you didn’t really care to go, or maybe couldn’t, in which case I’m sorry in advance for making you feel bad. You know I’d choose you to be there.
I’ll apologise now for the hundreds (probably millions) of photos that I’ll ask you to take of me. Especially when you want me to check they’re ok and then I ask you to do it again. I promise I’ll try and not be too annoying about it…
I’ve met people from all over the world through travelling. Many have come and gone, and some have stayed. I’ve chosen you as a permanent fixture, so trust in that.
But there will always be people missing from our lives. Although there’s something to be said for a network of family and friends all over the world. We’ll never be lonely, and we’ll never lack love and support.
I feel like I’ve had a lifetime of careers already, and I’ve dreamed of even more. Those ideas we talk about, those thoughts of finding our own pathway in the world, they’re all made possible by the diversity of both of our past experiences. Working 9-5 isn’t really my style, although I do it when I have to, and I’ll do it for us if we need it. But we both know we’re not cut out for that mould.
I’m afraid that travel may not be my number one anymore, but I know it’ll always be there. I’ll still want “birthday trips” and sorry (not sorry) to say you’ll probably get them now too. I’ll always be full of random facts about places we might never get to. Or maybe we will. But at least I’ll be awesome at the geography section of any pub quiz. Our TV will be full of saved travel shows and any travel related movie, and our bookshelves with the travel tales of others (and maybe someday mine), plus guides on places I hope we explore together one day. I’m afraid, but I’m excited too.
My curiosity is endless, and you’ll get sick of hearing me say “we should go there” every time I see some new place on TV, or read about it in a magazine (maybe you already are). But I’m curious about other things too. If you want to know something, you know all you have to do is mention it and a short time later I’ll present you with my researched answers. You should know that the same passion I have for travel will be transferred to the other aspects of our lives.
I’ve always cared more about experiences. I’ll never expect fancy or luxurious presents, and I’d rather you didn’t buy them. Get me adult classes in some new hobby like pottery, or language lessons instead. Of course, I’ll always accept a trip as a present! Although even then I don’t expect luxury, and in fact, sometimes I’d rather go without (except if you want to book a holiday to an overwater bungalow in the Maldives, that one I could live with).
Being from opposite ends of the earth has meant our path hasn’t been a straight one, and I don’t think it ever will be. We haven’t reached the end of learning about each other, and I’m sure there are many culture clashes and similarities to still be drawn out. But we’ll face them together.
Our lives will change, along with our priorities. With luck, our little family will expand, but that won’t ground us, it’ll just mean our love and our world will grow bigger. If anything there will be even more adventures since any child of ours is already a child of two sides of the world.
I’m perfectly happy to be independent, but I choose our team. Who knows where life will take us?
But if there’s one thing I can most definitely promise you, it’s that you’ll never be bored.
Thanks to our wedding photographer Claire Juliet Paton, who also took these pre-wedding shots for us. She takes stunning photos of couples across Scotland and further afield and I can’t wait to see more!